photo: Wilson44691 via wikipediaBy Crabby McSlacker
Regular readers may have noticed that I am quite fond of passing on principles for living a happy, healthy, balanced, life--while admitting that I totally suck at applying them to my own problems.
But hey, reminding myself of things that would make life easier if I would just f--cking do them? Not a bad thing! Because sometimes I actually pay attention to my own reminders if I go to the trouble of putting them in a blog post and boring the crap out of other people with them.
Anyway, I'm going out on a limb here and guessing that about 95-98% of you also occasionally forget this one blatantly obvious tip, which is applicable to almost any problematic area of life.
So which Thing You Already Know am I reminding you to Actually Go Out and Do?
Break it Down!
If you find yourself stuck, scared, stymied, rebellious, avoidant, overwhelmed, demotivated, or even delusionally in denial about a problem, there's a good chance that you are trying to tackle too much of it at once.
So, duh: you have to carve out a tiny piece and do just that, and don't worry about doing it perfectly. And then maybe come back later for another tiny piece but don't even worry about that part until you've got the first piece done.
And yes, I've written about this a few hundred times before, but you guys are used to me repeating myself and this is sadly the sort of thing we need relentless reminders about or we forget.
I offer my own, seemingly trivial example:
I can't seem to put a blog post up lately.
Partly it's lack of time, and stress-frazzled brain cells, but partly it's because the idea of putting together a coherent blog post has somehow gotten Too Big in my head. There are lots of things I want to write about. (Meditation! Mountain Biking! High School Memories! Mental Illness and the Unfair Stigma Attached Thereto! Healthy Airport Eats! The Awesomeness of Rick Hanson in Yet a New Incarnation! Anger Management! The Overcoming of Life-long Driving and Flying Phobias! Shinzen Young! Dancing in the Moonlight!)
(And yeah, Be Very Afraid. That was only a tiny fraction of imaginary blog posts that have been spinning through my head).
Yet each observation I want to share seems to relate to thousands of other things that would also then need saying. But when I sit down to write, none of these things seem the least bit original or funny or wise or helpful. Plus, every blog post should have pictures to break up the text and I should reply to comments and visit other blogs and not be rude and weird, right?
And so rather than Just Fucking Write Something, I've been pretending I don't have a blog. Which would be fine if I were someone who is happy when not blogging.
But alas, I'm not. Not blogging feels wrong and creepy. I would rather be a shitty and occasional blogger than someone who does not blog at all. Go figure.
Break it Down Even MoreSometimes, if you are working on an enormous project like a dissertation, deciding to open up a research source to the right page without even reading a word yet could be a start.
Or, if you're hoping to run a 10K, there may be days when putting on a pair of running shoes for a walk around the block could be a great accomplishment.
Or if your house is a disaster and you are a disorganized mess, choosing a single place where you will always put your keys when you walk through the door could lead gradually to a more peaceful, less chaotic home life.
Or, if you are a blogger, putting up a crappy post that at least says "I'm still here!" might lead to other posts. Who knows?
Do you ever avoid things because you let them get too big in your head?