tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post7376431237451372036..comments2024-03-15T04:01:53.036-04:00Comments on Cranky Fitness: Take My Advice--I'm Not Using ItCrabby McSlackerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12108791388350253344noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-41237706166903217532007-11-17T17:33:00.000-05:002007-11-17T17:33:00.000-05:00Great post!! Loved the part about story telling! L...Great post!! Loved the part about story telling! LOLAlcinda (Cindy) Moorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14950698583878546323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-68229943414347138672007-11-16T13:36:00.000-05:002007-11-16T13:36:00.000-05:00Emily, Onedia and Scale Mistress, thanks so much! ...Emily, Onedia and Scale Mistress, thanks so much! These are great--I really will have to do a follow up post on this, there's too much wisdom lurking down here in the comments.Crabby McSlackerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12108791388350253344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-39264790947055520442007-11-16T11:50:00.000-05:002007-11-16T11:50:00.000-05:00Here's mine...Appreciate the people in your life. ...Here's mine...<BR/><BR/>Appreciate the people in your life. We all get busy but life is too short so don't miss an opportunity to tell the people in your life how you feel about them and work a little harder to stay in touch with people who mean something to you.Scale Mistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07439449415388442584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-50040538351461410842007-11-15T10:33:00.000-05:002007-11-15T10:33:00.000-05:00I haven't read all the comments but I have some fr...I haven't read all the comments but I have some from the "youngster" perspective:<BR/><BR/>1) Things DO change after you get married even if you have lived together already<BR/><BR/>2) Love your mother-in-law even when she tries to tell you how to decorate your new house because she really does love you<BR/><BR/>3) Tell people how you really feel and don't try to hold back the negative feelings...but be nice<BR/><BR/>4) Don't start blogging unless you want to get udderly addicted<BR/><BR/>That's all I can scrap up for now : )Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14989528656890002126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-34277939699344442532007-11-15T09:44:00.000-05:002007-11-15T09:44:00.000-05:00More awesomeness!Mary, much as a cracked up over t...More awesomeness!<BR/>Mary, much as a cracked up over the first two, the last one was really moving. Thanks for that.<BR/><BR/>And Jaime--hmm, I always got the "lawyer" suggestion too because I always argued with everything. (But back then, suggesting any "real" profession for women was sort of a compliment, so it didn't bug me too much. But I never really thought of the fact that no one says that to boys!)<BR/><BR/>Thick Chick,<BR/>Those are great suggestions! (And I've never seen an attribution fo 'fake it til you make it,' and have always been curious. It was great to find you at Sister Skinny, where so many awesome bloggers seem to hang out.<BR/><BR/>And Michael--dang, you too on the disappearing comments? Wonder what's up with that? Anyway, I second you on the novel and would add: if you do finally write it and the first one doesn't sell, don't wait 20 years to write the next one! (But I don't seem to be following that one too well so far).Crabby McSlackerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12108791388350253344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-66502990143681305732007-11-15T09:38:00.000-05:002007-11-15T09:38:00.000-05:00Okay, so I'm not the only one whose comment disapp...Okay, so I'm not the only one whose comment disappeared, then. Oh I do hope I won't have to post again!<BR/><BR/>It seems everyone has covered all the bases, but I guess I'll this advice (which I have most definitely ignored blatantly): Don't take 20 years to write a novel!Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05778854020957942903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-69660279363247657572007-11-15T09:09:00.000-05:002007-11-15T09:09:00.000-05:00Crabby, so glad we found each other in the blogosp...Crabby, so glad we found each other in the blogosphere! Long overdue!<BR/><BR/>What a fantastic post, and what insightful readers you have. <BR/><BR/>For once, I think I'm speechless.<BR/><BR/>I think I'll just borrow a few words from India Arie:<BR/><BR/>It doesn't cost a thing to smile<BR/>You don't have to pay to laugh<BR/><BR/>and another favorite, I think it has to be attributed to author (and failed talk show host) Iyanla Vanzant and that is: <BR/>Fake it until you make it.<BR/><BR/>If you're crabby (haha!) pretend to feel better and before you know it, you actually will! If you don't feel so great about yourself, act as though you do, and before you know it, you will. Etc.ThickChickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01933349763585424365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-93958015875493972007-11-15T08:42:00.000-05:002007-11-15T08:42:00.000-05:00All this talk of eye-rolling and surly teenagers m...All this talk of eye-rolling and surly teenagers made me think of another. From the surly/backtalking teenager's point of view...<BR/><BR/>If your daughter, niece, granddaughter, or any other young woman or girl in your life is talkative, argumentative, and strong, please do not say, "You should be a lawyer when you grow up." Even if you mean it as a compliment. No one says that to strong boys. I found it infuriating when I was a kid, and I find it infuriating now.Jaimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08963931779920699803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-48288188872088651232007-11-15T00:10:00.000-05:002007-11-15T00:10:00.000-05:00I was going to just offer the only words of wisdom...I was going to just offer the only words of wisdom that I've learned:<BR/><BR/>a) don't sweat the petty stuff and don't pet the sweaty stuff<BR/>b) don't do your deep fat frying in the nude<BR/><BR/>Then I read Reb's comment, and I have to say c) screw the above. Live now.<BR/>My parents had their whole lives planned for after retirement, when the last child (moi) would be an adult and they could go off by themselves and Live. <BR/>And yes, my father passed away the year before he was due to retire.<BR/>Live NOW.The Merryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09660495393832517684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-63562110256486495802007-11-14T23:33:00.000-05:002007-11-14T23:33:00.000-05:00MB--I hate when comments disappear! Blogger's been...MB--I hate when comments disappear! Blogger's been funky today too, I had to repost several comments. But glad you persevered to offer more advice--and that eyeroll thing, I know I did that too when I should have been paying attention!<BR/><BR/>Bunnygirl--wow! The first comment was a whole great post in itself and now you've got more! Thanks so much. <BR/><BR/>Amy--well, that's still great advice we can keep using every day going forward. It's so important to remember to cherish those important moments--they're so fleeting!Crabby McSlackerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12108791388350253344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-10564240962920948472007-11-14T22:42:00.000-05:002007-11-14T22:42:00.000-05:00Fantastic advice and great post! I wish I would h...Fantastic advice and great post! <BR/><BR/>I wish I would have listened more when people told me that time goes by too quickly and kids grow up too fast. I would have enjoyed the little moments more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-23215815028986665202007-11-14T18:39:00.001-05:002007-11-14T18:39:00.001-05:00Here's more:1. It's not about you. Most of what ...Here's more:<BR/><BR/>1. It's not about you. Most of what happens in life and most of how other people treat you have nothing (or very nearly nothing) to do with you. A long line at the grocery store is not a conspiracy. A surly clerk is probably not mad at you in particular. Taking things personally is a good way to be miserable and who wants to give other people that much power over their happiness?<BR/><BR/>2. Shortcuts usually aren't. This is both literal (trying to go around a long light or bottleneck) and figurative (like trying to advance in a career for which you don't have the standard credentials). Be very careful of shortcuts because they usually just waste time.Ann (bunnygirl)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04938134750150653386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-53930054169259309972007-11-14T18:39:00.000-05:002007-11-14T18:39:00.000-05:00Great advice!I always get the dreaded eye roll fro...Great advice!<BR/><BR/>I always get the dreaded eye roll from my niece when I try to give her good advice, i.e., wear sunscreen - you will never tan, pasty white girl; don't be cruel to your mother - you will regret it; do something you love to do and not for the big paycheck - you'll get stuck in a profession you hate, etc. etc. <BR/><BR/>I wish I took this advice when I was her age but I'm sure I just rolled my eyes.<BR/><BR/>Today is the youngest you will be for the rest of your life - work hard but play harder, smile, laugh, ENJOY!!MBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01430150187237706515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-6453469405297997252007-11-14T18:25:00.000-05:002007-11-14T18:25:00.000-05:00Always, ALWAYS save your witty and insightful comm...Always, ALWAYS save your witty and insightful comments before hitting "post" and having them disappear in the blogsphere. I'll try to recreate my words of wisdom later. UGGHH!MBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01430150187237706515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-7618107340883581792007-11-14T17:56:00.000-05:002007-11-14T17:56:00.000-05:00Can I just say I'm blown away by not only the humo...Can I just say I'm blown away by not only the humor and wit, but the generosity and wisdom of what you all are contributing? I'm hoping people don't mind if I talk about some of these comments some more in a future post--probably next week some time.<BR/><BR/>And Amy, NCRunner, Lullaby, Lisa, Jim, Melissa, Vanilla, Bag Lady, Reb, Meg, Jaime, Randi, and Susan--you guys, like the previous commenters, really have some amazingly thoughtful advice--thanks so much!Crabby McSlackerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12108791388350253344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-49982300374070671392007-11-14T17:35:00.000-05:002007-11-14T17:35:00.000-05:00Tell those you love, "I love you" more often.Go fo...Tell those you love, "I love you" more often.<BR/><BR/>Go for walks in the country.<BR/><BR/>Be silly.<BR/><BR/>Pet a dog.<BR/><BR/>Hold a baby.<BR/><BR/>Wash your hands!<BR/><BR/>And yes, wear sunscreen! :)<BR/><BR/>Great idea, Crabby, and lots of fun! :)test bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03347673028265950269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-90660152338519377142007-11-14T17:03:00.000-05:002007-11-14T17:03:00.000-05:00Keep a journal or a scrapbook. Record your favorit...Keep a journal or a scrapbook. Record your favorite memories. Even if it seems like you'll always remember it, you might not. And label the names of the people in the pictures. Your children and grandchildren will thank you. (well you might be long gone but they'll want to thank you). I started this, recording memories of growing up (my dad used to farm but now he doesn't so my kids will never know about cleaning about bins and driving a tractor and probably won't believe that I ever did)<BR/>Also, realize that you're a grown-up and you don't have to do anything you don't want to do anymore. Basically that means you don't have to do something to make other people happy. BUT if it makes somebody you love happy and it isn't that terrible for you to do, maybe do it for them. Remember they're not making you though, you're chosing to make them happy.<BR/><BR/>Crabby - best idea EVER!Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16447302746208359404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-64936908165886288632007-11-14T16:43:00.000-05:002007-11-14T16:43:00.000-05:00[I wrote a whole thing here, and then blogger lost...[I wrote a whole thing here, and then blogger lost it. But I will take everyone's advice and be sane and zen and calm. :) It's inspiring to see how wise all of you are.]<BR/><BR/>As a young'un, I'm in a better place to take this advice than to give, but here's what I always try to remember:<BR/><BR/>Be generous with your kindness. This applies to everyone: children, waitresses, telemarketers, <I>everyone</I>. A stranger's kindness or patience can make your day so much better. Do that for someone else. It makes the world a better place.<BR/><BR/>I'd also recommend eating lots of vegetables. (I've recently discovered that dismantling a big head of cauliflower is one of the most zen things to do in the world.) It's amazing how often what's good for the planet is good for your body is good for your soul. <BR/><BR/>(Engage with science in general. Understanding how the world works, how your *body* works, is powerful.)<BR/><BR/>Thank you all for sharing your wisdom here. It's amazing.Jaimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08963931779920699803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-48482714718566187842007-11-14T16:16:00.000-05:002007-11-14T16:16:00.000-05:00Realize it is definitely is okay to take a break a...Realize it is definitely is okay to take a break and do something fun once in awhile, it doesn't mean you're "wasting" time. And is the only way you'll let go of some of those ssilly stressful things weighing you down. (Wow, i need this one...)<BR/><BR/>More importantly:<BR/><BR/>Be brave. If you wish you had more friends, don't just wait for someone to come to you, go for it. If you have a gift or talent you want to share but are too shy or think no one cares, just go for it. If there's at all that you really want to do but anxiety is holding you back JUST DO IT. It's in living that way, that you are really living. Every time I follow this the most amazing things come out of it.<BR/><BR/>If you do believe in God:<BR/>Seriously put your trust in God, don't just say you are. If you trust in God, then you've got nothing to be afraid of (read above) and you can do so much. And you'll probably like yourself more as you continue to strecth your limits and do so many wonderful things you never thought you could do.<BR/><BR/><BR/>I know these work. Especially the last two. The first one, way way easier said then done... Now off to go actually read a book.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-87598529061230464922007-11-14T15:00:00.000-05:002007-11-14T15:00:00.000-05:00Don't put off that vacation with the assumption yo...Don't put off that vacation with the assumption you will "do it once we have retired". You may not make it that long, or be in any shape to do the things you would do if you went now. Besides, old people don't even want to tour with old people.<BR/><BR/>If you are middle aged and lucky enough to still have your parents, thank them, tell them you love them, forgive them if necessary, enjoy them while they are still around.<BR/><BR/>Try to balance financial security with enjoying the right now. In other words: "We're spending our kids inheritance!" (Bumper sticker on our folks fancy motor home)Rebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05318594769530526005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-51108957659916066162007-11-14T14:57:00.000-05:002007-11-14T14:57:00.000-05:00Crabby, the needlepoint is on the Bag Lady's to-do...Crabby, the needlepoint is on the Bag Lady's to-do list - right after she finishes the 4 bags on order, and fencing, and dealing with that massive amount of pumpkin (chutney, anyone?), and re-roofing the cattle shed, and washing the kitchen floor. Maybe this evening, 'kay?<BR/>(vjeftkg - ancient Ukrainian for that last pickle stuck sideways in the bottom of the jar...)the Bag Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17434610508260994331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-75235268777557365742007-11-14T14:33:00.000-05:002007-11-14T14:33:00.000-05:00I know I wasn't wise beyond my years so I guess I ...I know I wasn't wise beyond my years so I guess I must be lucky. I started dating a girl when I was 16, she was the first and only girl I ever dated.<BR/><BR/>We dated through high school and college and got married when I graduated college at 22. We've been happily married for 9 years now.<BR/><BR/>I know that I'm the exception to the rule, but I like to tell the story anytime anyone suggests playing the field. Mostly because I enjoy being a contrarian $%*#!Ianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15875001377964050508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-75513478131319378022007-11-14T14:31:00.000-05:002007-11-14T14:31:00.000-05:00Well everybody's already said all the good stuff. ...Well everybody's already said all the good stuff. Here's the only thing I have left:<BR/><BR/>When you start getting old, have somebody review your makeup (or don't wear any). Especially your eyebrows. Way too many elderly women are walking around with crazy drawn-on eyebrows. (I think this is because they can't see very well.)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12785796365378274088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-80940048722343294352007-11-14T14:23:00.000-05:002007-11-14T14:23:00.000-05:00If the 20-odd years of video tapes I'm currently g...If the 20-odd years of video tapes I'm currently going through while working on a family project are any indication, we've got this saving memories thing <I>down.</I><BR/><BR/>There's also the reel-to-reels my mom is digitizing and the <I>other</I> huge box of tapes we haven't touched yet and the...Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09598437779185407354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-61409189549465470312007-11-14T13:57:00.000-05:002007-11-14T13:57:00.000-05:00Let sleeping babies lie.Your children are people t...Let sleeping babies lie.<BR/><BR/>Your children are people too. Don't treat them with less respect than the bank teller or the waitress.<BR/><BR/>You can try to plan your birth and all the little details of how you'll feed, clothe, and care for your child. Just don't forget that they have their own ideas and that sometimes life simply won't work out like you want. Neither are your fault nor do they make you a bad parent.<BR/><BR/>If you only keep one thing organized, let it be your important documents (i.e. copies of leases, tax statements, birth certificates, etc.)<BR/><BR/>It's just stuff. Don't worry more about it than people.<BR/><BR/>Afford everyone you meet a basic level of respect. They have to earn the rest.<BR/><BR/>And the one that took me the longest to learn:<BR/>It's okay not to like someone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com