Comments on Cranky Fitness: You Gotta Have Friends

The reason I'm commenting on this week+ old post i...

2009-07-27T17:19:42.683-04:00

The reason I'm commenting on this week+ old post is because I just got back from running a half-marathon...with a blog friend! We met in real life for the first time two days before the race. When we told people this at the pre-race pasta dinner I thought they were think we were weird. Instead, they were all impressed and amazed and told us how neat that was. So, long comment short: I love my blog friends and don't hesitate to talk about them.

Crabby, Merry... I wub you! I wub a bunch of my f...

2009-07-21T14:35:23.521-04:00

Crabby, Merry... I wub you! I wub a bunch of my fellow Crankyites too! :)

online friends have given me some seriously helpful support over the years. one helped me fight undiagnosed depression in high school.. and i've met a few, but never really clicked IRL like we did online oddly enough.

Since getting married and fighting infertility i found a few wonderful, supportive, sympathetic, understanding, beautiful people who were in the same situation... phenominally helpful when no one in my "real life" ever had to go thru the anguish of getting a Big Fat Negative every month more than 3 times, let alone the 16 we did. one of my online friends was the first to know i was pregnant - i called her at (7am my time) 4am CA time so she could look at the pic i posted!

I must be socially retarded, because i like chatting and talking with people (from RL or online) online WAY better than on the phone!

i say online friends can be just as important ... ...

2009-07-20T21:26:08.268-04:00

i say online friends can be just as important ... but partly because many of the people i've met online have become very good acquaintances (or friends) in real life.

this isn't so true for me in the blogging world, but off an old college hockey forum i used to post on i've made tons of friends/acquaintances.

I love my online friends. No matter how much my h...

2009-07-20T15:03:32.912-04:00

I love my online friends. No matter how much my hubby makes fun of me for it. It's a great way to connect with people in other parts of the world who share our interests!

I also feel horribly guilty when I go 3 or 4 days without "checking in". Like this last weekend.

I can also relate! I mention my "blogging friends"...

2009-07-19T21:39:58.459-04:00

I can also relate! I mention my "blogging friends" all the time and I know some people think I need to get out more. (which I do, but for different reasons!)

I feel bloggy friendships are almost more real than IRL friends. Online, it's easier for me to be myself without feeling like I'm being judged for my looks or the size of my house, etc. (this goes on a lot in my area).

sometimes I wish that more of my online friends lived near me than the people who actually do! :)

I was just ... never mind. "Most people are not...

2009-07-19T19:25:46.901-04:00

I was *just* ... never mind.

"Most people are not all that familiar with the verb "to blog" anyway"
Um.

What cool normal people are *you* all hanging out with? I would like to meet them.

He he, everyone already thinks I'm crazy in the 'r...

2009-07-19T17:27:40.147-04:00

He he, everyone already thinks I'm crazy in the 'real world' so I talk about you guys all the time. Plus it's a wonderful feeling to be able to share stuff in bloggy land that I would be too ashamed to talk about in RL and have so much support and understanding. Thanks everyone!

I so love the comments on this post! I'm glad I'm...

2009-07-19T13:44:10.407-04:00

I so love the comments on this post! I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling like the people I meet online are indeed "real" and important to me!

And I can't tell you how many times I've repeated funny stories or observations I've read in the comments here to my friends "IRL." Though sometimes I just a say "a friend of mine" rather than go into details about it being a blog-friend.

Oh, and expateek: I so WISH I were going to Blogher, but alas, I didn't get my act together to sign up until after it sold out. Maybe next year!

I have made some long term friends (I agree, it's ...

2009-07-18T18:25:45.436-04:00

I have made some long term friends (I agree, it's like having pen pals for years only updated) from various online venues. Some were originally customers on eBay, some I have been their customer, some are from shared interest forums. Some have left me crushed and heartbroken and some have supported me with awesome wisdom and kindness through rough times.

As I have gotten older I have lost many RL friends to distance or death, so any friend, online or IRL is precious.

The bloggers I read regularly, while maybe not actually friends so much, are still people I care about what happens to! Many have posted stuff that has helped me a lot in dealing with life in general. I appreciate them tremendously. The ones who "talk" with me warm my heart.

LOL, I love this post. I comment occasionally but...

2009-07-18T17:53:30.543-04:00

LOL, I love this post. I comment occasionally but I'm mostly a "stalker" and my boyfriend gives me shit because I'll say.....so and so that I know....and I totally do the thing like PQ, or yoga girl, or whatever. He says "is this someone you really know?" Um, ....I think so :)

I feel like I know my blogging friends so well. An...

2009-07-18T17:16:09.679-04:00

I feel like I know my blogging friends so well. And miss you when you're gone for even a few days. Thanks for taking the time to stay in touch.

cammi99

To my hubby I say all the time "my online buddy......

2009-07-18T11:21:20.973-04:00

To my hubby I say all the time "my online buddy...", but to others I just say "this friend had...". I talk about y'all all the time! I've been able to be more real and to the point than I have with most face to face people.

There are some people on-line that I just adore......

2009-07-18T07:41:36.692-04:00

There are some people on-line that I just adore... although only a few have communicated enough to feel like "friends". People who comment back, or visit back, well, that's just a gift!

I'm really appreciative of my virtual friends. Sometimes a note just makes my day. And, what Amy said... when talking about "this person I know" -- I find myself saying that so often, and then the conversation goes off in this really weird funny direction if I have to explain more!

Your blog is great, and I really feel like your personality shines through. It makes it easy to feel like I "know" you.

Speaking of virtual/real, are you by any chance going to BlogHer?

You are a GEEK... and so you should be proud! For...

2009-07-18T01:36:44.078-04:00

You are a GEEK... and so you should be proud!

For the lack of a better word and because I feel lazy... some of the "super awesomest" business deals I've made over the past few months have been with dudes and dudeets that I've never met face to face.

Times have changed, people have changed, and it's about time for everyone to start feeling OK for missing those whacky loonballs who know so well... yet are represented by a bunch of pixels.

".. even if it's totally relevant and hilarious, b...

2009-07-18T01:09:00.886-04:00

".. even if it's totally relevant and hilarious, because you're afraid people will think you're socially retarded and don't get out enough?"

YES. Then again I AM socially retarded and DON'T get out enough.

And YES on the name thing, too.

That video was hilarious.

Have fun with your friends. I love hearing that bloggers occasionally spend time in the real world. It makes me happy. (or less guilty for not commenting more.)

Oh I would just shivel up and DIE without my blogg...

2009-07-18T01:05:54.963-04:00

Oh I would just shivel up and DIE without my bloggy friends!! I just blogged about how lonely I get IRL and the only support I have is online. I just really wish I had someone to sit and have tea with or take a walk with or get a hug from, too.

I never felt that online friendship mattered until...

2009-07-17T22:11:23.461-04:00

I never felt that online friendship mattered until I started blogging and found so many of the ones mentioned here or commenting here. As long as I have an internet connection, I never have to worry about being alone. that is very comforting.

Crabby - you nailed it with this post! My online f...

2009-07-17T18:31:33.311-04:00

Crabby - you nailed it with this post! My online friends are just as important (sometimes MORE important) as my real life friends. Blogging has helped me hang on to the tiny shreds of sanity I have left....

Thanks so much for the mention! Tickled me pink.

Well, I talk a lot about the online friends & blog...

2009-07-17T16:41:30.743-04:00

Well, I talk a lot about the online friends & blogs with not only my "real life" friends but my hubby. Sometimes I get some weird looks but I don't care! I get lots of comfort, support & great advice from the online community... and not to mention THE HUMOR!!!! Some of you are too damn funny! That means you, Crabby & Merry & Yum Yucky! On top of that, some real intellectuals out there that are expanding my tiny brain!!! :-) Only prob, don't get a lot of housework done!

Friends rule....period. Who cares where they come...

2009-07-17T15:19:57.852-04:00

Friends rule....period. Who cares where they come from! :)

Oh but of course. I've made several online-to-real...

2009-07-17T15:03:53.387-04:00

Oh but of course. I've made several online-to-real life friendships and for every one of those, there are several more with whom I feel some significant connection. It's just as real as any other friendship.. and in many cases better. Plus.. we all understand when you need to spend time with people in the flesh. It's not always the reverse. Do enjoy! :)

That's funny...I mean, the stuff going around in m...

2009-07-17T13:40:24.373-04:00

That's funny...I mean, the stuff going around in my head right this moment.
Ah, now...can't you just tell these "important visitors" that you have to go the bathroom? And then be in the bathroom for awhile?

I feel similar to the other commentors -- that the support I gain from reading other folks blogs is very helpful. I have also had some bad things come out of online "relationships." So I kind of watch it. But the blogging environment seems supportive and genuine for the most part.
Thanks for that PODDY plug!
word verification is squati (rhymes with PODDY)

How funny, I was just thinking today about how man...

2009-07-17T13:25:41.212-04:00

How funny, I was just thinking today about how many people have checked on my after my surgery - and most of them have been my interwebs peeps! It's a different world nowadays, and I like having blog-friends.

P.S. That video is hilarious! "Check out these awesome granny panties" had me rolling and holding my stomach at the same time - hurts to laugh!!!

I have caught myself SO many times about to relate...

2009-07-17T12:59:14.101-04:00

I have caught myself SO many times about to relate a story from an online friend to someone in RL and always stop - I guess I think they'll think it's weird; like I can't function interpersonally unless a keyboard is involved. Anyway, it's not like I'm hiding some big dark secret like a booze/gambling/drug/sex-for-shoes addiction so what's the harm? I just like keeping this to myself.

In terms of losing weight, I've gotten lots more inspiration and motivation from my online buddies than I ever have in RL. People here seem less judgmental-or it seems that way to me. We're here for each other practically every day and that is a very rare thing but something I always look forward to. Merry nailed it: reality IS overrated.

Im with merry. what IS this (fingerquote) reality ...

2009-07-17T12:41:44.125-04:00

Im with merry.
what IS this (fingerquote) reality (unFQ) of which you speak?!