tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post4923705901894980279..comments2024-03-15T04:01:53.036-04:00Comments on Cranky Fitness: No More Control Tops--Let's Dance!Crabby McSlackerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12108791388350253344noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-10822476778899195612014-10-10T14:33:17.904-04:002014-10-10T14:33:17.904-04:00It’s difficult burning calories, especially if you...It’s difficult burning calories, especially if you’re new to exercise<br />Here is an awesome solution .<br />do spare just 30 seconds of ua precious time and u won't regret. <br />i promise :)alexahttp://trk.as/f4x3noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-15800078508483214082014-10-08T07:39:33.486-04:002014-10-08T07:39:33.486-04:00Thanks for the titles, Anonymous. I'll look in...Thanks for the titles, Anonymous. I'll look into these; I haven't found either of these yet and I'm always looking for more information.Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-11266483064734268162014-10-06T19:07:58.519-04:002014-10-06T19:07:58.519-04:00Also not a professional, but a couple of books by ...Also not a professional, but a couple of books by professionals that I think hit the mark on the psychology of food/eating: <br /><br />-Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole (has a chapter on kids)<br />-Eating Mindfully: How to End Mindless Eating and Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food <br />by Susan Albers PsyDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-40965405268660401462014-10-06T12:31:32.160-04:002014-10-06T12:31:32.160-04:00This is a tough one, Anonymous. There's a fine...This is a tough one, Anonymous. There's a fine line between expressing concern and a teenager hearing, "You're fat and this affects how we feel about you." That's what I heard over and over again. And our culture teaches us to hear that constantly; that voice is difficult to tune out. <br /><br />I think, given what you've said, you're doing the right thing already. You're modeling good behavior and good, healthy food is available in the house. Probably, the less said the better. She knows what healthy behavior is from watching your struggle. She's old enough to make some decisions for herself but also old enough to rebel against your directives (I'm guessing on that one!). The more she feels that she is unacceptable, the more she may eat to feel comfort (food is always there and it doesn't judge). You may have to let go on this one and let her make the decisions here. The more my family harped on my appearance, the worse I felt and the more I believed, for a long time, it was impossible to do anything real to "fix" the problem. Of course, this helped to create a real problem as the years dragged on. <br /><br />As a young woman, she's hearing enough voices that tell her about her appearance. Perhaps your love and healthy lifestyle modeling will do the trick before anything else will?<br /><br />And congratulations on your own success!! I know you must be proud of yourself!! <br /><br />I am not a therapist, a psychologist or a professional counselor, Anonymous. All I can do is share with you what I would have preferred at 13 and knowledge gained from research on various related topics. Any professionals out there?Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-41188677777871369102014-10-06T07:14:17.454-04:002014-10-06T07:14:17.454-04:00This was an interesting post for me. My daughter i...This was an interesting post for me. My daughter is 13 and has gained some weight recently -- we're in the "we're going to have to watch it or she's going to get chunky" stage. I have struggled with my weight my whole life -- finally in 2009 I made a commitment to getting healthy and lost about 70 lbs. Now I run and lift weights regularly and try to eat healthy. My daughter is quite sedentary and eats like total crap. So I don't want to mess up her head or body image or make her think there is anything wrong with her, but I do want to express my concern that she needs to get some exercise and make healthier choices. My husband and I both model a healthy lifestyle but it doesn't seem to influence her. And she was old enough to remember me at my fattest -- I have said to her that I don't want to see her have to struggle with her weight the way I did with mine -- but again, I worry that I am dancing dangerously close to making her think she's fat when I say this. Any tips for approaching this that are better than the one your mother took? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-84948077409306497842014-10-05T08:45:37.056-04:002014-10-05T08:45:37.056-04:00Thank you, Janelle. I just wish I had appreciated ...Thank you, Janelle. I just wish I had appreciated what I had back then and had more fun :) <br />If anything from my time on the planet can help anyone, they are welcome to the words and the experiences. Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-45518010620693803442014-10-05T08:42:29.512-04:002014-10-05T08:42:29.512-04:00Thank you, Alison. At least I was able to understa...Thank you, Alison. At least I was able to understand my mother in many ways. She was often really honest; it just took the distance of adulthood to make sense of a lot of it. I hope you can find your peace. You may find your "iron" in a really surprising place! When you do, I hope you'll share it with us. I've gotten pretty honest about my own experiences and it's really great to know it helped someone in some small way.Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-53131820177720336362014-10-05T00:10:27.928-04:002014-10-05T00:10:27.928-04:00Reading this was cathartic... truly. I experience...Reading this was cathartic... truly. I experienced something very similar but I didn't have history to fall back on or old fashioned mores. My mother had no excuse for playing "Mommy Dearest" at all, she simply did in many ways, not the least of which was giving huge self-esteem issues that are still taking a lifetime to work through. Her mother was a socialite and held big dinner parties at her house, and all her clothing was hand stitched by her own seamstress, they were wealthy and my mother did not end up in the same social circles as an adult. I think she resented it but that's just speculation. The trouble is, ironing out where I'm supposed to be now, and how to feel good and healthy about my body and my life for making the right choices.<br /><br />I can't even tell you how good it was to see something like this said out loud.Alison Phillipshttp://thefatlossfactorreviewer.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-70498648908365351862014-10-04T13:53:31.652-04:002014-10-04T13:53:31.652-04:00You are an absolute doll in both of those pictures...You are an absolute doll in both of those pictures! And your figure was absolutely FINE, lovely even! It's such a shame that you were treated in that way, you should feel so proud how you have powered through it and used your experiences to motivate and encourage others!Janelle Mhttp://cvfn.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-28425247506978915282014-10-03T09:24:08.857-04:002014-10-03T09:24:08.857-04:00Thanks, AA96726. Hell, there's nothing wrong w...Thanks, AA96726. Hell, there's nothing wrong with a little butter :)<br />Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-80877915245919073022014-10-03T09:22:14.637-04:002014-10-03T09:22:14.637-04:00Thank you, Janonymous. I'm not sure about &quo...Thank you, Janonymous. I'm not sure about "awesome" but you're welcome!<br />My life is filled with so much to be grateful for I am often brought to tears about it. I have things in my life I never thought I'd have.Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-43204410143031180082014-10-03T09:20:00.849-04:002014-10-03T09:20:00.849-04:00Aww. . . Thanks Bob Ben :)
It's really good on...Aww. . . Thanks Bob Ben :)<br />It's really good on this side of things!Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-68214184498400584002014-10-03T09:18:47.777-04:002014-10-03T09:18:47.777-04:00Thanks, DRG :)
But I have to say that I have an am...Thanks, DRG :)<br />But I have to say that I have an amazing support structure these days. The Husband is a Prince, I have a cheerleader of a best friend and the brother she got me when she married is a part of that structure too. So it isn't all me! I absolutely cannot take all the credit.Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-85860659688033507702014-10-03T09:15:26.005-04:002014-10-03T09:15:26.005-04:00Unfortunately, in the long run, she suffered far m...Unfortunately, in the long run, she suffered far more than I did actually. I think being beautiful took a toll on her that I will never fully comprehend. She was put under an entirely different kind of pressure.Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-50250036200015208682014-10-03T09:13:26.267-04:002014-10-03T09:13:26.267-04:00You are lucky, Mary Ann!
Thanks for reading.You are lucky, Mary Ann!<br />Thanks for reading.Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-75323188215386405442014-10-02T21:56:46.941-04:002014-10-02T21:56:46.941-04:00Holy Shit! And I remember being hurt when my mom ...Holy Shit! And I remember being hurt when my mom suggested that dipping carrot sticks in butter wasnt my healthiest snacking option..You look great now and you did then.AA96726https://www.blogger.com/profile/17317513684921767052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-78905943975622183072014-10-02T14:55:35.267-04:002014-10-02T14:55:35.267-04:00Dear Genie - What a smile! What a beautiful young...Dear Genie - What a smile! What a beautiful young lady! I hope your life now is filled with love, acceptance and joy. Thanks for being sufficiently brave to tell your story and kudos for coming out all that so much for the better. You're pretty awesome!Janonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-46357588336406402782014-10-02T13:41:33.587-04:002014-10-02T13:41:33.587-04:00And no! you don't look fat in either picture!And no! you don't look fat in either picture!Bob Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13362352764620606342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-71590738383203513722014-10-02T13:40:06.847-04:002014-10-02T13:40:06.847-04:00Thank you for sharing! what an incredible story. Y...Thank you for sharing! what an incredible story. You rock. I'm grateful I didn't have to go through that. Glad you came out the other side!Bob Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13362352764620606342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-79267273160796557212014-10-02T12:55:13.596-04:002014-10-02T12:55:13.596-04:00Wow. You are really heroic to have brought yoursel...Wow. You are really heroic to have brought yourself to where you are today, and to pass your wisdom along to your students. Like Mary Anne, I missed all of this (well, I was a skinny, oblivious kid, but my sister was not & I never heard any comments or criticism about weight in our household, and I don't think either of my daughters ever went on a diet), but it is clearly out there and really, really needs to stop! Hurray for you!!!Death Ride Grandmanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-53176962027238352782014-10-02T12:44:45.356-04:002014-10-02T12:44:45.356-04:00Yep! I have a beauty queen mother as well. It is...Yep! I have a beauty queen mother as well. It is interesting that I always thought I had it worst as the child that was a disappointment but, the favored child suffers as well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13738221033894885773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1704170106558126102.post-91208132285002020992014-10-02T10:16:47.480-04:002014-10-02T10:16:47.480-04:00I am so lucky. All of this nonsense just passed ri...I am so lucky. All of this nonsense just passed right by me. <br /><br />Mary Anne in Kentuckysolarityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03606487180967915130noreply@blogger.com